Hindsight is 20 20

After being so angry, bitter and hurting so bad for so long over missing out on so much of my baby girl's life, I'm realizing that there are serious, complicated issues that surround Parental Alienation Syndrome, and that a lot of times, the way the target parent reacts to the situation can improve the situation or make it worse. In understanding alienation, I am forced to take responsibility for mishandling situations that I should have handled completely differently with my daughter, no matter how hard it is to swallow. Hindsight is 20 20.

Also, when you take time to understand the issues the alienator is suffering from that cause them to alienate their own child from the other parent, it's hard to not be sympathetic to a point. In a sense, it makes them appear more relatable as a person, albeit with serious issues, rather than a monster who is hurting your child, yourself and your entire family. All you can do is empower yourself with the knowledge you need to rectify the situation with your child(ren), and use the tools you learn to reverse the alienation process and stop it in it's tracks. When you make the choice to become proactive instead of defensive or passive in this kind of situation, you'll become amazed at the transformation in yourself & your outlook on life.

Once you begin to understand the Alienation process from a child's point of view and the position the alienating parent puts the child in, psychologically, it certainly helps you to be more receptive to the things that your child says and avoid being crushed by the hatred that the child expresses, even if he/she does not really feel that way, inside.

For anybody dealing with divorce issues with children, custody issues or what you feel like may be Parental Alienation, I HIGHLY recommend the book, 'Divorce Poison' by Dr. Richard A. Warshak.

As always, I do welcome all feedback and comments.